It’s attractive when guys, or anyone, really, knows what they want. It’s even more appealing when they seem to be describing you. This guy was looking for an artsy, creative, athletic, spiritually conscious, fun-loving type. That’s me! Well, I’m semi-athletic. I do athletic things. And he’s a cyclist. I must have been on a cycling fix or something. He also talked a lot about being up for anything, having an adventurous spirit, and taking risks.

Subject: Pro-fixie or anti-fixie?
Date: Mar 4
Hi!

I was just looking at your photos and saw the one of the “One less fixie” sticker on the bike. Are you pro-fixie or con? A friend of mine explained to me that he started riding a fixie to work to build up his leg strength for a triathlon he was training for. This still didn’t help me understand the appeal, since I always went for consistent RPMs (I’m still working on that, though).

I love that you’re looking for someone with an “I’ll try it” attitude. I’ve learned that I work best with people who say “yes” (or at least “sure”) more than “no.”

So what’s the best risk you’ve ever taken?

He wrote back not long after.

Subject: Pro-fixie or anti-fixie?
Date: Mar 4

Hi,

I’m off and running for work so I’ll have to think about my “best risk” and get back to you later today.

Thanks for the email, I loved your “cat people vs dog people” analogy… it sounds like the roots to a good bluegrass song…

I’ll write again soon, cheers-

He didn’t write again soon. And then I thought, do I write him back? He said he’d write me… I didn’t write him back. Maybe I’ll message him again. Maybe I won’t. He did have something about sexual compatibility in his profile, which, sure, if it’s important to you, maybe it makes sense to put it in there, but it also sort of feels like putting the cart before the horse.