02.18.09
When to Give Another Chance, When to Give Up
We’re recording the next Bros Roundtable podcast on Thursday. Inspired by some recent events in Sterling’s and my personal lives, the theme is going to be giving up on someone versus giving them another chance.
I have the questions that you all suggested earlier, but if there’s anything you want to know about this specific topic, send me an email or leave it in the comments!
Kate said,
February 18, 2009 at 5:50 pm
I don’t know specifics, but that sounds saddies, and I’m sorry to hear it.
As far as questions, I’d like to hear about the “disappearing man” phenomenon. As far as how that relates to giving someone another chance, how about “I called him and he didn’t call back. Should I call again, or just let it go?”
N said,
February 18, 2009 at 8:11 pm
It’s not really sad — well, not for me. It’s just one of my perpetual questions. For some reason, there seems to be a fine line between being forgiving and being a total pushover. But I love “saddies.”
I love that question, though. Consider it added to the list!
romance4roodle said,
February 19, 2009 at 4:40 pm
I never know when to listen to the Mars & Venus guy and when to ignore him, but he has a lot to say about the disappearing man in “Mars & Venus On A Date”. He says it’s fine to contact the guy about something OTHER than finding out what he’s thinking about you — for instance, asking for the URL of that website the guy mentioned the last time you talked. If you do that in a light, friendly tone, but clearly with no expectations, that’s supposed to help the guy realize that whenever he’s ready to get back in touch, you won’t hold the disappearance against him. The author also had all sorts of explanations for why you shouldn’t take it personally when a guy “disappears,” and why it really might not mean he’s uninterested. The explanations sounded convincing at the time, but I don’t remember what they were.