11.17.08
The Worst Kind of Kiss | 100E, 20D Poll
We’ve all had bad kisses, starting often with the very first one. Which of these is the top dealbreaker for you when it comes to a kiss? Feel free to add your own answer if it’s not already on the list. And definitely share your stories in the comments if you want.
Read the poll results (as of November 30) and my two-cents analysis.
Kristin said,
November 17, 2008 at 7:52 am
So funny you posted this today! I watched an episode of How I Met Your Mother…the Too Much Tongue Boy vs Abnormally Small Mouth Opening Girl…so then if it is a bad first kiss, do you give the guy another chance to redeem himself and improve his kissing quality? Or do you just chalk it up to all his kisses are going to be horrendous and it’s time to run away? And if anyone I know reads this…this is just hypothetical. I won’t comment on GI Joe’s kisses. (and if anyone I don’t know reads this comment, GI Joe is a real person…I don’t make out with dolls).
thesoniashow said,
November 17, 2008 at 2:49 pm
I have had nightmares about someone shoving their tongue down my throat and I start choking. Seriously!
Nicole said,
November 17, 2008 at 3:16 pm
Ooh! I forgot “Teeth-licker.” I can’t remember when I kissed someone who did that, but I did. I think I’ve blocked it out of my memory.
Sonia, that’s terrible! Why must your subconscious torment you like that? Ick.
Kristin — wait, so you watched a show about bad kissing on a date? How was that? The cop I dated briefly was a mediocre kisser at first. It got better with time, or practice, or maybe just me liking him more the more I got to know him. But if the dude is a bad — like undeniably bad — kisser, I say run away! Unless you really like him, then maybe he deserves a second chance.
Roodle said,
November 17, 2008 at 5:02 pm
I figure bad kissing comes from one of these:
- inexperience, which can be endearing, and which lets you, as the Experienced Woman of the World, instruct him with sexy whispers;
- insecurity, which is unappealing but very amenable to direct requests or even orders;
- incompatible styles (Do you like him enough to take turns?); or
- self-centeredness (Fatal: he doesn’t even care what you like).
I think it’s actually easier to talk about what you want in sex than it is in kissing, since kissing comes when you don’t know each other well. Of course, from what I hear, for lots of people that’s true of sex, too, but if you’re into casual sex then either you’ve gotten over your inhibitions about telling strangers what you want OR you’re not expecting to get what you want.
Sorry, went onto a tangent there. My worst kisses were during the 8th-grade semi-formal dance, during a slow dance, when he ended up somehow making out with my chin. At the time, I didn’t have the guts to say anything, but eventually he figured it out.
Roodle said,
November 17, 2008 at 5:21 pm
No, wait — my worst kisses have been the ones where I give the guy what I think are clear cues that I don’t want a kiss, and he goes in for one anyway. My reaction is always to duck so that he ends up kissing something like my forehead. Once, I’m pretty sure a guy kissed the bill of my baseball hat. What kills me is that this happened to me just a few months ago, and he kissed the top of my head. The guy is middle-aged, and he’s still going in for a clearly-unwanted kiss! (As a single person, I hate to make a now-I-know-why-he’s-still-single joke, but this one’s too obvious to pass up.) Then, more recently, he saw me at a public event, and he went in for another one! This time, he realized I wasn’t going for it, so he picked up my hand and kissed that. Next time I see him, I’ll pre-emptively say something. Better late than never.
Nicole said,
November 17, 2008 at 7:38 pm
Oh my god, ladies. I love all your comments. Roodle, I wonder if the “going in for a kiss” just takes so much determination that guys can’t abort the mission halfway through. You know that expression some guys get on their faces as they’re moving in for the first kiss? It’s like all they’re thinking is, “OK, I’m going for it” and they’re not seeing anything else. And, I have to say, I commend them for their courage. But when you’ve been sending some pretty clear signals all night that you’re not interested, it’s a total head-scratcher.
There is something weirdly personal about kissing. You’re so right, you can correct someone’s technique in other areas, but correcting their kissing is somehow taboo.
Kristin said,
November 17, 2008 at 8:32 pm
Roodle that is hilarious that someone kissed your hat once…I’m going to try the ducking thing if I ever am on the receiving end of unwanted kisses!
As for watching a show about bad kissers on a date where there will likely be a kiss at the end of it, and a first kiss at that…kinda put the pressure on! I was really worried that I would have a nickname or worse, that I would have to stop calling him GI Joe and start referring to him as “Too Much Tongue Boy”.
And I think that “OK, I’m going for it” face is hilarious…so endearing. Or creepy.
thesoniashow said,
November 18, 2008 at 3:08 pm
I was subjected to the unwanted kiss a few months back. I was on a second date. I was sending every signal short of actually saying, “Don’t touch me” to this guy, and he STILL went in for the kiss! I couldn’t believe it. AND THEN, he asked if I wanted to go back to his apartment with him. Clueless dolt.
The Worst Kind of Kiss | Poll Results « 100 Emails, 20 Dates said,
November 30, 2008 at 12:49 pm
[...] in dating at 12:49 pm by Nicole My bad kissing poll (“What’s the worst kind of kiss?”) had some interesting results, in that there was no clear winner! I used the WordPress plugin to [...]